Saturday, April 21, 2012

It's Just a Stinking T-Shirt




Anyone who knows me can attest to the fact that I will scream bigotry and anti-Semitism from the highest rooftop if I perceive it, whether it’s real or not. Recently, the Huffington Post printed an article about a t-shirt being sold by Urban Outfitters that has received harsh criticism from the Anti-Defamation League of Philadelphia because of its design. When I first saw the shirt in question I thought, “Those bastards!” But then I started thinking about it and recognized that I could apply a valuable lesson I learned from Ben Patrick Johnson. I don’t want to climb a ladder until I can be reasonably sure there is discrimination to scream about.

When Adam B. first brought the Huffington Post article regarding this shirt to my attention I was furious. Obviously Urban Outfitters was out to smack the Jewish community in the face with their obvious support of the Holocaust right after Yom HaShoah. Why else would they sell a goldenrod yellow shirt with a Star of David above the left breast? Clearly, some sort of Hitlerian influence was involved in the design of this t-shirt and the growing trend of anti-Semitism in America has gained more ground in our society. Furthermore, they used a two-toned bluish-gray Star of David over the pocket! Clearly, this shirt was a reversal of the Auschwitz uniforms the Jews had to wear, if they were offered clothing at all. And what would this bundle of bigotry cost you? One hundred dollars! Clearly, Urban Outfitters values its hatred of Jews.

Then I started looking at the basic design of the t-shirt. It’s a simple pocket-t with an embroidered emblem on the pocket. I’ve seen t-shirts with that basic pattern for years. I’ve seen them with pink triangles, rainbows, American flags, and a multitude of other symbols. Why was this one different? The Star maybe? I wondered how many more there are in retail world. I Googled “Star of David T-Shirts” and every one I found had a large Star prominently displayed across the chest and stomach areas. No small Stars over the left breast. I thought that was odd. I know I’ve seen polo shirts with Stars of David over the left breast at my JCC, so there obviously is no prohibition to where the Star can be placed. With the exception of the color choices, I couldn’t find a reason for the anti-Semitic label being applied to this particular shirt.

I also remembered that catalog sales companies rarely produce their own goods offered to the consumer for purchase. Urban Outfitters labeled the shirt as “Wood Wood Kellog Tee” which gave some clue as to the origin of the shirt. Wood Wood is a European company that sells over-priced clothing via several retail environments including internet and stand-alone stores. Their main website appears to be from Denmark. Surely, a Danish company wouldn’t be a party to open anti-Semitism given Denmark’s history in World War Two in which they did everything possible to save their Jewish community. While browsing their site I found the second t-shirt that could be viewed as promoting Jewish pride, complete with Israeli colors of white with blue; the model is even wearing shorts that make it resemble the Israeli flag.

In this particular case, I see a company that designed a shirt with a poor choice of color and layout that was purchased by a second company for distribution to the American public. I don’t believe there were any malicious intentions on the part of the designer in question, although I question their age, knowledge and sensitivity to history. To the Anti-Defamation League of Philadelphia, I would like to remind them of the hazards of crying wolf.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Yes, It Gets Better. It's Up to Us to Help

Yesterday, I learned that Jamey Rodemeyer committed suicide months after he posted his own It Gets Better video to YouTube.  I found the news to be shocking and heartbreaking at the same time.  If he really believed it gets better he wouldn’t have done it, right?  Wrong.  Jamey probably found himself in the same position I did at his age.  Gay. Alone.  Like me, Jamey didn’t have the support he needed in his most desperate time.  We can try to place blame on the bullies, schools, government and maybe even his parents; but we could be wrong.  The blame may very well lie with us, the Gay Community.

In the 80’s there were certain risks for admitting to ourselves and others our true natures.  Most of us remained closeted into our twenties and beyond.  Many sought refuge in places and people that were not healthy to us; bars and the trolls that frequented them.  These sanctuaries led to various addictions, abuses and diseases that had the potential to lead us to certain destruction.  There was nowhere else to go.  Our parents didn’t approve. Our religious leaders convinced us that we were damned.  And even our best friends quit talking to us.  Isolated, we struggled through each day hoping for things to get better.

 Today every major city has a Gay Lesbian Community Center (GLCC), but they’re lacking in services to the LBGT community.  I called a few in my area and asked if there were any activities going on that I may find interesting.  All told me about their HIV testing schedules, one told me about a semi-annual bar-b-que.  That’s it. I then explained that I needed information on youth oriented activities since my neighbor’s son, fourteen, is gay and he’s really going through a tough time and I think he should connect with others in West Palm Beach in his own age group.  I got dead air.  All these “resources” and nothing to help the most vulnerable in our community.

I realize why “Matt” is a permanent fixture on my patio; he has nowhere else to go.  Everything I thought was there to help him turned out to be a myth.  There is no peer counseling or gay health issues awareness talks for him to attend.  I couldn’t find a single social group for gay teens to get together in a clean safe environment just to hang out. 

The LGBT community has fallen into slacktivism.  We retweet random quotes from various celebrities about how it gets better.  We make videos saying it gets better to post on YouTube.  We march once a year in every state in colorful parades that have lost their meaning.  We sign our names to random internet petitions calling for the government to stop bullying.  And that’s pretty much where it ends. We are letting “Matt” and others like him down. 

If you want to show the next generation that it really does get better, it’s up to you to get off your duff and go out and show them how much better it got.  If your GLCC is lacking in youth activities then volunteer to start one.  If your GLCC is unwilling, maybe you have a LBGT friendly church in your area willing to help.  In today’s age of social media, it wouldn’t take too much to have a pizza and coke social at the local bowling alley.  Share your story and invite others to do the same.  Anything you do can help save one young life. 

I have made “Matt” my personal responsibility and he knows he can contact me any time if he needs to talk; I will not let him follow Jamey’s path.  I challenge the LBGT community to do the same.